Unending

yeah. so i'm married now.

i am a husband. i have a wife. there are rings. photos are in the mail. a piece of cake is still in the fridge.

trying to write about everything is significantly more than daunting.

it was, without question, a shatteringly fun wedding. bartlebee and i poured our hearts out in speeches. she looked divine in her dress. i wore a fedora. my brother-in-law threw down a ceremony that made the cold-hearted consider love and the non-jews consider having a jewish wedding. i stomped hell out of the glass. we danced with our friends and families for what felt like hours, round and round and up and down in chairs. holding my niece, clutching my brother, kissing my friends. they sat us down and performed for us, the most ridiculous acts of gut-wrenching silliness we'd ever seen: fish faces, mexican wrestling, and the worst robot ever. dinner, more hugging, more dancing, an ambulance (he's fine), and the toasts! the room all squinted in unison and "arrrrghed" like pirates. tables competed unbidden to prove their spirit. the whole room did the wave.

yeah. they did the wave at our wedding. one end of the room to the other and back. my bubbe, my parents friends, everyone on their feet waving their hands in the air. 'cause we were so fucking happy.

and then it was over. the dj winds it down and my sister stumbles out to lead the shortest of closing prayers. all of us in a huge circle in a room filled with confetti and party hats and half-full glasses of champagne. seven of our friends raise their voices to us -- wishing us well -- and the last of them? he has the whole group screaming, "oh! yes! oh god! oh god yes!" and that's how the wedding built to a climax.

i hope it was good for you. i'm still completely exhausted.

and thinking about packing for africa.

i will post pictures and probably more stories about the wedding on the official wedding website. please feel free to check it out if you're interested. i'll get to it asap. after all, we're leaving for africa in three weeks.

i wish i could have invited all of you. so much love! and that's just the beginning.